Created: Jul 24, 2018, 17:26 IST. OUR 2 sons are young men now, but I find it difficult to move ahead with my life. I worked for a while after graduating, then went to graduate school, moved across the country, and established my career. When I split up with my ex (the one I dream about), I took it really hard and for a couple of years after hoped we would get back together but never did. The problem here is that after 10 years I'm still thinking about my first. We married right out of college. He or she just wants things to return to normal, but that's not possible if you're still heartbroken. It has been 10 years and even through me having more children and both of us being remarried, I can't get over him. We are both successful professionals and have two beautiful children together. He was angry as we had separated 5 years prior for 6 months after a trauma I had and I needed my time to recover. Long story short, after 3 years since we dated, I am over him. I still think about him and miss him everyday. I regret the divorce, I regret not trying after the divorce when he … He didn’t really understand. Tough Love; By Jennifer Still; You broke up a while ago and you’re totally over your ex—you don’t think about them during your day to day life and you certainly don’t miss them… until you do. I know times have changed, he even has two kids now from what I've heard. I only mention him when my friends bring him up on occasion (I guess they think I don't love him anymore). (If you have to see your ex at school, keep your encounters short and sweet.) Your ex might not understand all of that. My ex husband left our family 7 years ago for my (single w/2 kids) friend. By - TNN. I was married before him, have dated and had serious relationships after him, including my husband now who I have been with for 8 years. facebooktwitterincom. He and I were together for 6 months. We divorced 5 years later. And yet 20 years later I still think of Sarah. I love him now just if not as strongly as I did before. (Granted, it was a pretty hot and steamy year). It has been 7 years and I still miss my ex-girlfriend. Explain to your ex that you need some time to yourself, and avoid seeing him or her as well as you can. Then, I made myself do something drastic, that would change my life. I guess I just want to know, is this normal?